5 Tips to understanding Mental Health and Counseling


Often times we look at mental health with the stigma of the title being negative. Thinking of people who are in mental institutions, or someone suffering from a severe Mental Disorder such as schizophrenia, schizoaffective disorders, or bipolar disorder. Although these are disorders that fall under mental health, there is more to mental health than just the extreme. Mental health is a person’s mental condition with regard to their emotion well-being and psychological well-being.

If a person deals with anxiety, having down days, being emotionally upset, or grieving the loss of something or someone, all fall under the title of mental health. It’s important that we understand as a whole that Mental Health is just as important as your Physical Health. For example, if you are dealing with a cold, chronic headaches, a sprain, or a broken bone, you will seek the guidance and consult of a Physician or Doctor. The same precautions and steps taken for your physical health needs to be taken for your mental health. So here, I’ve listed some tips for you to help you understand Mental Health and maybe break down some stigmas that you may have when seeking out help if you ever may need it.

1. Sometimes, we need more than just “friendly” or “family” advice

If you are going through a tough time in your life (death, grief, depression, anxiety, self-esteem, break-up) and you do not have the personal tools to help you get through, it is important that you either, a) seek out a counselor in your area, or b) talk to a person with understanding and compassion. Sometimes, our best friend, parent, spouse, are not the ideal “go-to” people for guidance in how to deal with life “stressors.” They may give us advice that is misleading; they may also invalidate our feelings, making us feel worse about our current situation than before. When we are dealing with situations that are in need of a person with understanding, compassion, and an unbiased opinion, it’s time to seek out a counselor or a trusted pastor within the community.

2. Everything about you matters

YOUR MENTAL HEALTH IS IMPORTANT. If you wake up with days that feel off, are constantly in a depressive state of mind, or negative mind state, looking for help outside of your immediate circle is important. When seeking guidance and help from a counselor, you are not just confiding in a “stranger,” you are confiding in someone who truly cares about your well-being and your mental state of mind. A counseling session is nothing like a doctors visit. The counselor that you choose is someone who is going to treat you as an individual, care about your feelings, your words, and a way to help you overcome what you are dealing with. Us counselors take our passion seriously, and when you walk into the office of a counselor, be prepared to be treated like you are the most important person, because you are, and what you are going through matters.

3. “I am telling a stranger my personal issues, that’s not cool”

A counselor is more than just a “stranger.” They are someone who spent a great deal of time and years in a profession that strictly focuses on a personals emotional and psychological state on a daily basis. A counselor of your own choice isn’t going to “gossip” about what you say in a counseling session. It is our job, our duty, to make sure that you are safe; that what you say to us is strictly between the counselor and you. What you may say to a friend or family member may be biased depending on your situation. With a counselor, you are getting an opinion from someone who strictly wants to help YOU through the situation that you are currently in. There is no biased opinion

4. What good mental health can do for you?

If you are a person who struggles with positive mental health, this is for you.
Positive mental health allows you to realize your full potential in life, cope with the stresses that life may bring, work productively in all environments, and make meaningful contributions to not only your community, but your family, and personal life. There are ways to maintain positive mental health which include getting professional help if you need it, connecting with positive and compassionate people, researching ways to up productivity and positivity in your life, getting physically active, helping other, getting enough sleep, and developing coping skills. Your mental health isn’t something that you just brush off if it’s impacting your life negatively, there are ways that you can make a change and get your mental health on the right track!

5. It may be a genetic thing

Over the course of your life, sometimes you may experience health issues, or even mental health problems. If you have experienced stress, depression, or any other mental health problem your thinking, your mood, and your behavior that could be affected. Some factors that contribute to mental health problems include biological factors such as genes or brain chemistry, life experiences such as trauma or abuse, and family history of mental health problems. It’s important that you talk with your parents or family members to see if there is a genetic factor to your mental health problems. For example if there’s a history of depression, bipolar disorder, anxiety, alcoholism, those are all things that you should seek out help for.

Your mental health isn’t something to take lightly, and there is ALWAYS someone who cares to help you. As counselors, we genuinely care about the people we help.
I hope this article finds you well and if you are ever in need or searching, please do not hesitate to get the help you need and deserve. Your LIFE matters.


  1. May 26, 2017 / 11:56 pm

    I appreciate you talking about the importance of choosing a mental health counselor that cares about your words and your needs. It makes sense that finding someone like this can help you feel comfortable with them and get the help you need to stay sane. Personally, I would want to find a counselor that treats me like a friend and who legitimately cares about how I turn out.

    • loveyourmind
      June 7, 2017 / 11:17 pm

      Thank you! I really appreciate your support and comment! I completely agree it’s important to have that relationship with your client!

  2. June 28, 2017 / 4:55 pm

    I never knew that anxiety counseling can help you connect with positive and compassionate people that can help you. My wife has been having some anxious thoughts lately. Hopefully, this info can help us find an expert that can help her feel more comfortable.

    • loveyourmind
      June 30, 2017 / 1:14 am

      This really makes me happy Mr. Jackson! Thank you for taking the time to let me know that this blog was helpful for you! I really hope that this blog post also helps your wife as well! Please contact me if you have any questions. I do provide e-therapy and would love to be of service to your wife if I am a great fit for her! I wish you both the best!

    • loveyourmind
      August 26, 2017 / 12:02 am

      Thank you!

  3. August 3, 2017 / 12:59 pm

    I find it is really useful for me. Thank you so much for sharing. I will suggest your posts to my friends. Hope more people will appreciate your posts.

    • loveyourmind
      August 26, 2017 / 12:01 am

      Thank you so much! I greatly appreciate that! Thank you for reading! I appreciate your time!

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    • loveyourmind
      August 26, 2017 / 12:02 am

      Thank you for your time! Take care!

    • loveyourmind
      September 7, 2017 / 8:46 pm

      I am glad you took the time to read and it was helpful!

  5. September 15, 2017 / 11:26 pm

    I love your point that you’re not just telling your personal issues to a stranger. Like you said, speaking with friends or family members will not have the same outcome because they are biased, unlike a mental health professional. Speaking with someone you know well would also not be as helpful because, as much as they would want to help, they typically aren’t trained in recognizing mental patterns or helping you to retrain your mind. This is where a mental health counselor has a huge advantage in being able to actually make a difference for you!

    • loveyourmind
      September 22, 2017 / 6:22 pm

      Yes I completely agree! Thank you for taking the time to read!

  6. October 19, 2017 / 2:13 pm

    Regrettably, I do not have anyone to talk to right now and I’ve just broken up with my boyfriend. I am pretty sure I will not be able to resolve this situation myself as my self-esteem is low. I hope that what you are saying that a counseling session is nothing like doctor’s visit is true, and together we will overcome this period of my life.

    • loveyourmind
      October 19, 2017 / 4:45 pm

      Hi there! I am so sorry to hear about the breakup that you’re currently experiencing. Relationships can be difficult and dealing with others, not knowing exactly how they feel at times can be tough. But yes, I am here to tell you that being able to speak with a counselor or a women’s coach can definitely help you through this period of your life. I’d love to be there for you. Is there a way that I can contact you and talk with you a little bit more to see if I can be someone that fits for you?

  7. November 3, 2017 / 10:33 pm

    I was on the phone with my cousin the other day and she was telling me about some mental health problems she was having. She is convinced that she needs help and I agree. It would be helpful for her to also look into the genetics of the situation and see if her parents may have a history of the same problems.

    • loveyourmind
      November 5, 2017 / 8:41 pm

      Yes ma’am! I completely agree. It’s definitely something that you’d be interested in knowing. I’m glad that you all are having that conversation. It’s truly important. I wish the best to both you and your cousin! Let me know if I can help in any way!

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